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All About Worries

Humanity is crippled with all types of worries even as early as when the child is hardly 2 to 3 years old only. As the child gets old its types and number of worries becomes many fold and it persists until the day he or she breathes his lost. THE ALMIGHTY has never spared any body from this disease that is also contagious in nature in spite of his holding positions, wealth, power, influence or any virtues for that matter. Even during those few moments before getting hanged and seeing an end to his life that unfortunate individual worries for the family he is leaving behind, the nation and its people being fully aware that he has no control at all over the events after his death. When one worry is solved either way another worry or worries takes its place as there is also no limit of numbers for this disease. Actually the problems faced in life push you to this abstract noun and in a way retard the confidence level even while you are in the process of solving it. All of us are aware of that great BHAGWADH GEETHA that always preaches you to do the best in the available situations with out worrying about the result. Actually that philosophy of life implies that the result is not in our hand though our attempt should be to its optimum level. But to put in to practice this age old theory and freeing yourself from worries is not practicable to almost all of us. But there are also silly worries that certain people suffer from for which they have to get the help of a psychiatrist. Normally the silly doubts take the shape of worries. To list a few,

Student- doubts whether he had written the roll number correctly in answer sheet though his inner most mind says he has done it. After leaving the hall he returns to the examiner and pleads for checking. Some times he does it even twice. Middle aged man leaving the house with family for railway station. – He returns a few times and pulls the lock repeatedly and also not satisfied after reaching the station. This man used to wait for the post man to open the post box to check whether he had written the pin code, affixed the stamp and so on. But in those instances he would have done that job perfectly up to 100% and it is more of the mental condition than of real. House wife- preparing the feast for the guests are troubled with the doubt whether salt is put or otherwise.

Actually worries should act as a catalyst to accomplish your task. But that should be well before the commencement of that task, to some extent while in the process of carrying that task-but never after the completion of the task. In no case that would make the result alter or better it. Rather it is counter productive in slowing down the concentration level while performing the next task on hand.
The best solution is to be ready with the option for either way of the result.

1. If your son has plucked in the IIT you must have thought over and prepared mentally and ready with the alternatives
2. After the function the bridegrooms party answers negative for your daughter be prepared and don’t worry for what had already happened.
3. .If the suspected cancer or HIV +ve are confirmed by the doctor be ready for further action rather than worrying for what has already happened.
4. Having sent your son for service in the ARMY be prepared for the worst, which you should have considered at the time of sending only.
There are long term and short term worries that can be listed as below.

Short term worries-

1. Having been delayed by my neighbor the prospects of catching 8’o clock train.
2. Whether gas would last for 3 more days until the date of delivery by the company.
3. How many of the lady’s finger that I purchased to day would be tender.
4. The prospects of getting my leave sanctioned.

Long term worries-

1. When the KASHMIR PROBLEM will be solved?
2. The chances of OSAMA BIN LADEN captured alive.
3. When the cast system will go away from INDIA?
4. Whether my children would live in perfect harmony even after my death?

The first set of worries is momentary and will last for a brief period of time. Also the out come of the results would have been forgotten instantaneously. As for the next examples they are really of concern of every day and hence deep rooted. But simply worrying has no effect instead of putting your efforts in minimizing the impending misery. For the first 2 cases you cannot help unless you are an influential politician or renowned writer. The last 2 an attempt can be made by you by your own behavior with society or family people.

Normally most of the people are in the habit of anticipated trouble and worry for that which may never happen like tsunami, earth quake, fire, flood etc. Actually fear, anxiety and worry are triplets born to the same parents of pessimism and weak mind.

It is a famous saying that worries a little bit every day and in a life time you may lose a couple of years.

IF YOU CAN SOLVE A PROBLEM, THEN WHAT IS THE NEED OF WORRYING?

IF YOU CANNOT SOLVE THE PROBLEM, THEN WHAT IS THE USE OF WORRYING?

But by nature there are also people who are continuously trying to change the negative way of thinking in life by gathering experience of others and also their own.

There are 2 ways of looking a glass with half filled water. A pessimist who is always resigned to defeat at the slightest obstacle would view it as half empty while the other chap with positive sign with never-say-die attitude would declare it as half full. OK- it is admitted that it is not always possible to posses with that frame of mind for all the time and for all people. What we need is a new mind that thinks differently-or at least some variation in thinking. By my experience which is having not less than 7 decades behind the following few suggestions are made which are however not exhaustive. I request the readers to study the autobiography / biography of eminent people who had mastered to eliminate this curse which GOD has given only for humans and spared animals, birds, fish etc. 1. DON’T WORRY ABOUT THINGS AT NIGHT, OR IN BED, WHILE RELAXING OR TAKING YOUR FOOD.
2. DO EXERCISE UNTIL YOU ARE EXHAUSTED THOROUGHLY AND NO ENERGY EVEN TO WORRY.
3. GET INVOLVED IN THINGS WHICH TAKES YOUR MIND OUT OF WORRIES. Eg. READING BOOKS, HOBBIES LIKE MUSIC, PAINTING, DANCING, COOKING AND SURFING THE NET.
4. SOME TIMES WE WANT TO EXPRESS OURSELVES TO THE INDIVIDUALS, RELATIVES, FRIENDS, LEADERS OR FOR THAT MATTER ANY BODY. TAKE A PAPER AND WRITE DOWN ANY DAMN THING.
PLEASE DESTROY THAT PAPER AND CERTAINLY THERE MAY BE SOME RELEIF.
5. TRY TO EXTEND HELP TO THE NEEDY AS PER YOUR LIMITATIONS AND CAPACITY. IT NEED NOT NECESSARILY BE FINANCIAL. IT COULD BE TEACHING, HELPING ILLITERATES AT POST OFFICES, BANKS AND OTHER PUBLIC PLACES. BUT NEVER OPEN YOUR MOUTH ABOUT THE SERVICE YOU HAD RENDERED AS YOU WOULD MISS THE CHARM OF YOUR HELP.

FEARS AND WORRIES WILL GO BIGGER IF YOU DON’T DEAL WITH THEM.

My only worry is now all your worries will vanish and now no scope for me to write on the topic of WORRY with out worrying for your worry!

BY J.PANCHAPAGESAN FLAT-11,130 GILL NAGAR EXTN STREET CHOOLAIMEDU CHENNAI PH-044 23744963 EMAIL id- jpanchapagesan@yahoo.co.in